If you did it, it would be awesome.

Whether it's here or there, do something today that makes a change in your life (preferably for the better).   Make a change in your life today, not for me but for you.  Not because I got you to do it but because you got yourself to do it.   Why?  Because you wanted to and needed to like breathing your next breathe of air.  Because beyond the day to day stuff we do to get through life you also made a choice to live your life. A better you means a better world around you because you are generous, to yourself and also beyond yourself.   Do one thing, today.  When you look back on it you'll be able to say, "I did that and it made a difference". -Sensei Dan Rominski TheDOJO www.TheDOJO.org

Lessons this week at TheDOJO located in Rutherford NJ.

The Martial Arts

Teaching children the art of jujitsu (Jujutsu, Jui-Jitsu, Juijitsu same game different name!) and Judo, Karate, Grappling, Some think of it as mixed martial arts or MMA.  We keep the traditional customs of bowing, uniforms, etiquette, Japanese and asian customs; keeping it in it’s traditional sense.  

Why?

The value though is for children to learn how to protect themselves from most any situation they find themselves in.  Physically they would need to know how to protect themselves from being wrestled to the ground so they learn judo and jujutsu.  If someone tries to punch, push, kick or take a swing at them they need to know how to block and strike like in karate or how to dodge, slip cover up and evade like in boxing.  

How Not to Fight

Also children will need to know how to de-escalate a confrontation by not fighting such as setting verbal boundaries and using assertive communication rather than aggressive communication which could unintentionally escalate a fight or confrontation or even passive communication which could make one an easy target for bullies.  Click Here and Read my blog post here on teaching children The 3 Colors of Awareness for EZ Defense Non-Violent Conflict Resolution for Children.  

Additionally the children students of TheDOJO are taught by Sensei Dan Rominski how to defend against a stranger or a scenario of Child Abduction see a video here.

This is some of the relevant self-defense for toady’s world here TheDOJO with Sensei Dan Rominski.  We also cover other topics such as stranger danger, prevention and awareness for childhood sexual abuse, anger management, healthy eating and accident prevention.  Project Based Leadership Training teaches children how to be a leader and not a follow, great for any parent worried about peer pressure.

Children having fun in reality rather than in fantasy on a screen at TheDOJO in Rutherford NJ

Teaching grappling, judo and jiu-jitsu to children and adults at TheDOJO located in Rutherford NJ.

Children having fun in reality rather than in fantasy on a screen.

These two brothers have been training since they were wee-ones alongside their big brother. Many years and many smiles.

Teaching martial arts, karate judo jujitsu to children, teens, adults men and women.

-Sensei Dan Rominski

TheDOJO   

TheDOJO Food Drive 2016

Who else wants to help me feed  75 families this Spring/Summer? I am giving away $50,000 in gift certificates  to our community (again) to help raise $1,000  for The Rutherford Food Pantry.  I will donate 50% of tuition from all new members this Spring/Summer.   Refer TheDOJO and you have made a difference  to kick out hunger this Spring/summer. Dear Students, Parents and You, Referring TheDOJO gives food to people who need help in our community.   Over the past 9 years each summer, TheDOJO has raised 20,000 food items, personal hygiene products and school supplies for The Rutherford Food Pantry.  Who else wants to make a difference this Spring/Summer and help feed 75 families (350 people in our community)?  "TheDOJO helps carry us through  the summer months when  donations are low."  -Rutherford Social Services, Rutherford Food Pantry It's easy to make a difference and doesn't cost you anything.   Simply, hand this gift certificate today to a friend, neighbor, or family member and they will receive a FREE Month of Lessons, FREE Uniform and FREE Introductory Lesson.  Parents, share the secret of  "Sensei Dan & TheDOJO" - unleashing human potential.  Give another child the gift of learning discipline, focus, concentration and self-control leading to better grades and behavior in school & at home.  Don't let someone be a target for bullies or predators when our lessons can build lifetime confidence and self-defense skills.  It's for adults too! Parents, If you are interested in getting and staying in shape, you may use this gift certificate for yourself!.  Find out how to sustainably loose weight, relieve stress, tone up, all while learning self-defense; this is a great way to start off the new year! If someone doesn't enroll beyond their free month I will still donate $1 for each guest pass I mail out.  I've mailed 200 letters for this charity project to our students, so no matter what I am already donating $200 to The Rutherford Food Pantry to help kick hunger out of our community.  I like knowing 100% of my funds and efforts directly help.  3 Ways to Make a Difference by referring TheDOJO: Think of your child's best friend, or a friend with children, a neighbor, any adult who wants to get and stay in shape in a fun and safe learning environment (parents you may use this Gift Certificate for yourself),  Print and hand them a gift certificate CLICK HERE for a PDF To Print. Forward them this email and ask them to  --CLICK HERE for a FREE Month of Lessons at TheDOJO.  You know someone who knows someone.   Pass this email or gift certificate to anyone, let know them know they can pass it off to anyone...the universe will find that it gets to the right person. The Rutherford Food pantry helps families, children, the elderly... it's good all around.  If we can do a fundraiser for your school, team, scout troop or organization - call me. Thank you, Sensei Dan Rominski  Contact (201) 933-3050 or Dan@TheDOJO.org TheDOJO -Est.1975 and Celebrating 40 Years  P.S.  The sooner you refer TheDOJO, the sooner a donation will be made. P.P.S.  Refer Friends and Family to our website www.TheDOJO.org for info and to get started! Are You Ready for a FREE Month?   Children - Teens - Adults Use This Gift Certificate to Get Started CALL TODAY (201) 933-3050 & Schedule Your First Class or Register Now on our Website CLICK HERE - www.TheDOJO.org Parents, Get FREE Reports such as,   "How To Keep your Children Safe" CALL TODAY (201) 933-3050 or Subscribe on our Website CLICK HERE - www.TheDOJO.org One per person & for non-members only please. TheDOJO   52 Park Ave. Rutherford, NJ 07070 USA (201) 933-3050  www.TheDOJO.org

Teaching Self-Discipline to Children at TheDOJO

This week at TheDOJO we talked about the idea of Self-Discipline.   We discussed what Dicipline is, when, where and how to use it, and that ideas are only useful when we put them into ACTION.

Below is the basis of our Self-Discipline talk, as a black belt myself, self-discipline has been a life long journey for me, an exploration filled with many worthwhile discoveries. 

Self-Dsicipline: The ability to make yourself do, what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not. (Post this quote where you will see it everyday or where your child does their homework.)

"With Self-Discipline, most anything is possible" -Theodore Roosevelt 

Home Practice for Children

Children received a Self-Discipline Chart (if you didn't get one email me here) to log and journal their results. Parents we encourage you to implement it!  This morning our children (age 4) after breakfast, were proud to bring their plates to the sink saying "Self-Discipline!".  It built their confidence and strengthened their character. 

The Idea Put Into Action

Anytime we make and keep a promise to ourselves (self-discipline) we build our confidence & self-esteem.  Anytime we break that promise to ourselves we lower our self-esteem and our confidence in ourselves.  We simply don't trust ourselves that we will do what we say we will do.  This may be realized by us consciously or subconsciously.  Just imagine how good it feels, the confidence you have in yourself when you use self-discipline by eating right, exercising, saving for retirement, controlling spending, controlling portion sizes at meals, enjoying a desert rather than over indulging.  All easy to say, hard to do. 

Self-Discipline is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger it gets.  Like the athlete who through effort, time, and practice develops a stronger physical self, our character strengthens through use, challenge and practice.  In other words, "welcome the task that makes you go beyond yourself."  Don't most people just avoid it?  Black belts are not like most people, that is why they are black belts.

We develop a stronger character in our children and ourselves when we welcome adversity and see it as a teachable moment, an opportunity to evolve.  If your child doesn't want to go to class, great!  It's the moment you have been waiting for!  Anybody can do something when it's easy, but those who develop a strong character have the self-discipline to do something when they don't feel like it.  They may need our help, where a child or student stops that is where the job of a teacher, parent, mentor, or coach begins.  We inspire them to go way beyond themselves.  If I was a parent, and I am, I would want my child to develop character strength such as self-discipline, focus, confidence, self-control, perseverance, integrity, respect to name a few qualities.  These don't happen by accident.  They are cultivated through many teachable moments, and it is handwork, that's why we help parents, for that it takes a village to raise a child. 

At TheDOJO our Martial Arts Education builds strong character in our students, children especially.  It's one of the things parents like best about the Intelligent Curriculum I have designed which unleashes human potential.    

Thinking...The Mind is The Secret

Gandhi said, "What we think, we become."  The mind can only occupy one thought at a time, so when I catch myself thinking of an easy way out, apathy, complacency, laziness, fatigue...I focus my thought energy on the choice of self-discipline and the results it will yield to me.  I keep my mind on the things I want and off of the things I don't want.  As martial artists, first we replace the disempowering thought with the empowering thought, then we take action on it.  Simple, what we think we become. 

Lastly, we must water that which we want to grow.  The "I want it now mindset" of our society is not the right environment to cultivate Self-Discipline, so we must be atypical.  We can not treat our children efficiently, like downloading an app.  It takes time, patience and many teachable moments to be effective, developing in them and ourselves, the quality of self-discipline.    

Why go through all this work?  We are martial artists, it's who we are and the path we seek.

Peace Education for Children

Peace Education-Anger Management for Children

200 Thousand. That’s how many acts of violence, murders, deaths, and assaults children will see through TV, movies and video games by age 18; making violence a means for dealing with conflict.  

Why not give them other tools for their tool box such as Empathy, Compassion, Self-Control, Tolerance and Respect.

A Martial Arts Education of Intelligent Curriculum Curated by Sensei Dan Rominski at TheDOJO www.TheDOJO.org or call (201) 933-3050 for One FREE Month of Lessons for all new students.

"Parents, prepare your children for school and for life, give them the tools they need to succeed."

-Sensei Dan, TheDOJO Unleashing Human Potential

Parents, How may we help your child develop and cultivate the character qualities that will teach them how to succeed in life?   (What do you want your child to develop? Check the list and contact us today!)   Discipline & Self-Control Our martial arts education teaches discipline & self-control.  We have a wonderful patient staff who have helped many children improve their behavior at home and at school.  It's one of the things parents like best about our program.     Self-Defense Our martial arts education teaches practical proven self defense techniques that children get better & better at with practice.  Children protect themselves with their knowledge.  We give them the tools they need to protect themselves in any situation they may encounter.     Focus & Concentration Our martial arts education teaches children the ability to focus.  They learn HOW to learn while having fun & learning proper eye contact, how to concentrate ones mind & an attentive posture.  We give them a safe outlet for all their energy.   Confidence & Self-Esteem Our martial arts education teaches confidence & raises self-esteem.  The key to building confidence is our unique lessons taught by Sensei Dan.  Martial arts is different from team sports because each time a child earns their new belt it raises their self-esteem.  We have confidence building drills in every class that improves the way children really feel about themselves. Fitness Our martial arts education is a great way to get in shape; for parents & children!  Students trim down while improving muscle tone & coordination.  We teach healthy eating such as having more fruits & vegetables at meals & snacks, drinking water to stay well hydrated & the discipline to not overindulge in junk food. We teach children conscientiousness, to have grit and persistence, to be curious & creative and how to overcome problems optimistically.  "What matters most in a child's development, they say, is not how much information we can stuff into her brain in the first few years. What matters, instead, is whether we are able to help her develop a very different set of qualities, a list that includes persistence, self-control, curiosity, conscientiousness, grit and self-confidence." -Paul Tough, How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character   "Tools of the Mind, by contrast, doesn't focus much on reading and math abilities. Instead, all of its interventions are intended to help children learn a different kind of skill: controlling their impulses, staying focused on the task at hand, avoiding distractions and mental traps, managing their emotions, organizing their thoughts." -Paul Tough, How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character "help chronically low-performing but intelligent students, educators and parents must first recognize that character is at least as important as intellect." -Paul Tough, How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character ***Try it Free, (a $250 value and doesn't cost you a penny) includes,*** One Free, one to one Introductory Lesson and Evaluation with me, Sensei Dan, our best new student instructor who specializes at introducing martial arts to new students of all ages. One Free, High Quality New Student Uniform One Free, Month of Lessons at TheDOJO in our fantastic classes,   That's our integrity, try it free for a month.  No strings attached, no pressure to enroll and no sleazy sales pitch.  With 18,000 people in town we don't want that many students so we limit our class sizes, enrollment and school to a few who qualify.  This offer is limited to only 10 people per month and our waiting list gets filled fast, don't wait...Apply Today.  Call us at (201) 933-3050 at anytime, leave a voicemail and we'll call you back within 24 hours or Visit www.TheDOJO.org and register online. Come in to meet us at TheDOJO 52 Park Avenue Rutherford NJ, for a free tour, business hours online. Free Reports for Parents visit www.TheDOJO.org to subscribe   Thank you. From, Sensei Dan Rominski Owner & Chief Instructor TheDOJO TheDOJO.org (201) 933-3050